I took me this long to verbalise this in writing (this seals the deal).

I’ve learnt that when it comes to matters of love, you should be the only one that reigns in a person’s heart.

I loved *this* excerpt on Tinki Talks.

It says,

"The person who is really great for you, the person who brings out the best in you, your partner in crime? That person is not going to second guess your relationship until it's lost all meaning. That person is not going to rip your heart out of your chest even one time, and he certainly won't do it twice. And that person shouldn't make you an option, because in love you deserve to be a priority."

In love, you deserve to be a priority.

Here’s the truth: If you were never the priority, chances are you will never BE the priority. (Forget it if you are ever his option, he is not worth your time, effort or love.)

However, that isn’t the case with the Lover of Our Soul. That just doesn’t quite cut it for my Loved One.

His love for us was FIRST given. It was unnecessary for Him to lavish us with such great love.

His love is never based on emotions, the circumstances of life, availability in our spending time with Him, our carefulness in not hurting His feelings - I could go on and on, for the list is simply endless!

His love for us is beyond and without measure. What that means is His love is limitless, yet constant.

How is that possible? I’ve learnt that in love, your beloved is put before yourself.

Our Beloved placed us before Himself.

He went much further, in fact. We are regarded as “the joy that was set before Him” (Hebrews 12:2).

He secured our lives above His, and He did it with gladness. Never grunting, not once an utterance of complain.

Whatever for? Max Lucado explains this poignantly.

"Because, your soul was more important than His blood. Your eternal life was more important than His earthly life. Your place in heaven was more important to Him than His place in heaven. So, He gave up His, so you could have yours."

He gave us first place, and first loved us. Not second place, never an option.

He should never be the one you turn to ONLY when calamities strike, when you are in need a shoulder to rest your head to cry or a listening ear to your pleas, call upon only in times of need, cuddle up to only when you are low on love, whisper “I Love You” to only when He grants you what YOU desire.

He deserves so much more than that.

He is worthy of our highest praise, deepest worship, forever love and undeterred faithfulness.

He’s ENTITLED to it, yet never forces or demands.

He has the First Place in my heart and He is my First Love, and will remain so forever.